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Ralph Greg Gregory Stacey

September 11, 1947 - January 2, 2021


Ralph Gregory Stacey (Greg) September 11, 1947- January 2, 2021

The family of Greg Stacey is deeply saddened by his quiet and unexpected passing.


Greg was born in Vancouver to Ralph and Margaret Stacey: from his adventurous father, he acquired kindness, a love of the sea and penchant for good stories, and from his mother he inherited a love of art, music and gardening.  Greg arrived in Nelson in 1981 to become Chief Crown Counsel with his wife Margaret and small children. The family built a house on the beach at Willow Point, and enjoyed the North Shore community for 23 years, before becoming Nelson residents for the last fifteen years.


His family has been touched by the wide response to his death.  It is no surprise that Greg’s personal reach was formidable, from the management of the Nelson Rotary Club youth exchange for nineteen years, chairmanship of the Nelson United Church Board and Kootenay Lake Hospital Board, service on the boards of the Nelson and District Credit Union, Simon Fraser University, the Legal Services Society, Kootenay representative to the Canadian Bar Association, and a director with Health Labour Relations as well as supervising lawyer for the Nelson Advocacy Centre.   As a lawyer in Kamloops, Cranbrook and Nelson for 42 years, he worked for the Legal Services Society and Crown Counsel BC, and then launched a Nelson family practice in 1984 until retirement in 2017.  These historical facts do not show the mentorship, generosity and ethical behaviour that Greg practiced and championed throughout his career. As many people have put it, he was a gentlemanly lawyer.


The lawyer in Greg was only a part of who he was; he was fatherly to so many young people, welcoming and mentoring youth from all over the world, the country and the community, many of whom he retained in friendship.  Greg was an artist, a writer, an art collector, a chef, a musicologist, a movie and theatre lover, a lifelong student of history, philosophy, law and literature well after achieving degrees from Carleton, Simon Fraser and UBC, and he was arguably the biggest patron of the Nelson library.  He loved boats (preferably with sails), gardening, landscaping, and constructing rock walls. In recent years, Greg wanted to travel and explore the major cities of Europe, which he did, from Glasgow to Jerusalem, and many places in between.  This past year he enjoyed the company of some like-minded local gentlemen philosophers who have gathered virtually.


The most important thing in Greg’s life was his large and lively family, of whom he was very proud.  He is deeply missed by Margaret and their children:  Eleanor (Thomas Buffonge), Anne (Steve Meszaros), Robert (Angela Meilleur), Elizabeth (Nathan Affolter).  Greg took great joy in his grandchildren:  Christina, Edward, Alex, Theo, Charlotte, Violet and newest little girl Phoebe.  He also loved his weekly gatherings onscreen with sister Sharlene, and brothers Frank and Roy and their families.


The family thanks Drs. Malpass and Mieske and the first responders of Nelson for their kindness and attention.


A celebration of Greg’s life will be held at Nelson United Church when the world opens up again.


A wish of Greg’s was a scholarship legacy for a promising student, with mentorship or apprenticeship attached.  The family will draft the vehicle for the Greg Stacey Legacy in the coming year.


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From: Tim Pearkes
Relation: Friendship established at the bar (the legal fraternity, not a drinking establishment)

Dear Margaret, Eleanor, Rob and family. We are so very sorry for your loss. It is so like Greg to pass away quietly and without any fuss. He was a good man, a thoughtful man, but above all, he was a kind man. We need more kindness in our community. Greg was a smiling beacon. We were better in Nelson for him. Our thoughts are with you all and we look forward to celebrating his life when that is permitted.

From: Hollie Wheeler & Sam Lazenby
Relation: Friends and Neighbours

Dear Marg and the Stacey family , we are saddened by the sudden passing of your husband and father, Greg. Our hope for you is to find comfort and peace as you find your way through life’s many curves, remembering many adventures with him and honoring Greg’s memory. So very sorry.
Love & Hugs
Hollie & Sam

From: John Kirkhope.
Relation: Through court work.

Greatly saddened to read that Greg had died. You have my deepest sympathy Margaret. I have fond memories of Greg who was kind, considerate and thoughtful.

From: Phil Seagram
Relation: Professional and social.

Marg and family, I am so sorry to hear about Greg. I did see him recently, at Oso of course, and we had our usual short chat about the state of the world. A true character he was. My sincere condolences to you all. Phil Seagram

From: Simon and Judith Mitchell
Relation: He was a friend

Dear Margaret,
We are very sad to hear that Greg has passed away. We did not know until today when we read his obituary in the paper.
He was always very nice to us. If you met him in the street it made your day.
We also enjoyed having him as our lawyer. He came to the point quickly and made everything clear. There were always a few laughs as well.
I was happy that he left the Hobie cat on our beach, but I wish he had come over more often to use it! I thought he was very brave going sailing in near gale force winds. I was always nervous of tipping over and only went out in much gentler conditions. I guess he had a little more mass to work with!
I had no idea that he had done so much for the community but enjoyed working with him when I was chief of staff and he was the chairman of the hospital board. He was really an amazing person, but you would never know it as he liked to deprecate himself.
He talked to me about his visits to Europe. I am glad he was able to have those, as it was obviously important to him.
Anyway we are missing him and thinking of you and your family. He will leave a big hole in your lives. I hope we will see you soon.
With love from,
Simon and J

From: Kim ( Nick) Nickolchuk
Relation: casual acquaintance

My sincerest condolences on learning of the departure of Greg. When I had my cafe, or sometimes on the street, we would have brief but always interesting conversations. He was very gracious. Take care.

From: Roland Procter
Relation: 48 years, since 1973

Margaret, i am so sorry and saddened to learn of Greg’s passing. It is way too soon. Greg was such a fine man of integrity intelligence compassion and wit. If i can be of any support please contact me.

From: David Hersh & Linda Ford
Relation: Acquaintance

Our condolences to Marg and her family.

From: Patsy Ormond
Relation: Friend

Very sorry to hear of Greg’s passing. Love and sympathy to Margaret and family. Bruce and Patsy xo

From: Dale Boucher
Relation: Childhood friend of Margaret

Marg, I was so sorry to read about Greg’s passing. I am hoping that happy memories sustain you and your family during your times of grief. Dale Boucher

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A wish of Greg’s was a scholarship legacy for a promising student, with mentorship or apprenticeship attached.  The family will draft the vehicle for the Greg Stacey Legacy in the coming year.

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